Checking Bullies: Why Our Response Matters More Than Their Words

by Benson Agoha

Bullies are provocative, sometimes intimidating and despicable bunch. And it has the potential to become a scourge because it can be infectious.

Bullies often overlook their own short-comings, in their rabid desperation to intimidate or hurt others. Then, they claim it was all for fun. 'Just having a little fun here - looks like you take things too seriously', you could hear them say as they try to placate their way out of indictment.

Of the myriads ob bullies one can experience, the worse among them are mental health bullies. These group, with as much deficiency as anyone else, manage to mask theirs with a translucent veneer of complex they wear for garment, and try to project the opposite. It actually takes little to unmask them.

A few months ago, I met several new faces from the Greenwich Twitter community at this meet-and-greet session. But among the lot was a perfectly masked bully with decadence that an observant person will recognise as a camouflage.

Camouflages are a trigger for alertness but when worn as a uniform, they become fashionable and appealing. If only we remember never to take camouflages at face value.

So this lady projected an image of a conditioned, cultured and well polished city girl who would regard anyone capable of hurting a fly with disdain.

By the time, I left them to it, I had formed an opinion, to 'watch' her. And remained doing it even though we communicated in the days following that first meeting. By the time she 'came out', I was neither surprised nor disappointed.

No one can say exactly what triggers bullying in people, because while some do it for fun, others do it in reaction to the environmental displacement.

When subjected to pressure or other forms of stressful situation, people have been seen to react differently. While some people are as sweet as honey when they have money - or hope to have it, and become monsters when they don't, others have sleep and wake up relishing bullying.

All these abnormal behaviours from bullies show that a normal person can actually behave abnormally and may consequently require a more urgent attention for mental health professionals. Yet, until they take themselves there or are reported, they will carry on, and be seen as 'normal'.

The Home Treatment Team at the Oxleas House have capable mental health professionals who access patients, treat them where necessary and or make necessary recommendations and referrals.

But on the inside wall is a poster with the inscription "Did you know that, as a proven fact, 1 in 4 persons, have mental ill-health?

Very interesting wouldn't you say? But the statement is designed to encourage you to be honest and face reality. It is also designed to provide a psychological boost against bullying.

If you are aware that he who was bullying you faced even worse condition, and still passes off as 'normal', would you take their bullying so seriously? Or simply give it back to them and move on?

Parents should teach their children to develop a strong mental attitude early, which is a potent weapon against the effect of an act that emanate from very cruel, evil minded, ill-conceived and degrading minds.

Teach them to have a sense of self-worth and self-belief. It is this combination that enables you to strengthen your inhibitions so that you are immune to hurtful words and acts of bullies.

The reality of our world is that everybody cannot be cultured - even if you taught them. So, since there certainly will be deviants, it makes sense to prepare children to expect them, and know how to deal with them.

I have received a fair share of slurs and bullying. And actually firstly, I think, heard the word 'wanker' thrown at me from bullies at a Wood Green based shop. I had to ask colleagues for the meaning, and then trivialised it by telling them the abuse was hauled at my back, and not meant for me.

As a Marketing Canvasser with a Home Improvements outfit in welling, I received remarks. Not from colleagues of course, but from a group of fun-seeking lads, presumably bored with nothing to do, chose to drive around after a good meal, and say something unkind to others. That too, I let fall off my 'none-stick' back.

Nothing prepares you better against bullies than knowing what to say back to them and when. And frankly, sometimes, it is not every remark that merits a response.

While visiting the French Southern Provence of Avignon, my host and guide once told me that surviving presence of 2000 year-old single lane Bridge, called St. Julien, was evidence that Europe was also colonised. But he said, they got over it and recovered to rebuild and become world economic and military powers. Then he asked, why can't Africa get over there's?

Of course he got no immediate answer from me, but his thought-provoking question did stir a wave of internal reviews that helped me develop into a more confident African.

But there is nothing good about bullying. It is an anti-social behaviour that insults and degrades people, and which has led to the untimely death of so many hurt souls, who lacked the capacity to tolerate it.

But think of it, why would you help a bully either by crying or taking your own life? Many of those who committed suicide in recent times have been children who have hardly defined their goals in life.

My son was more confident than I ever was as a child, knocked into a confident lad early on by a German Foundation school called SOS Village.

But you never grow up to your parents and everyday I ask myself whether there were things I should have told him, that I didn't. Teach your child the right things about bullies and help them stay alive longer.

The best and the greatest of minds, say they have been bullied, and that is with the statistics not withstanding.

The discovery of the Higgs Bossom was remarkable, but the theory was developed by a man who was bullied earlier on. Imagine if he had given up.

Professor Peter Higgs told the BBC Radio 4 programme that in the early days of his theory, "he was considered a bit more eccentric and may be cranky".

Ok, you may have to operationalise on the words to decide where to place them, but I don't see anything different other than bullying if you are considered strange, weird or an outcast. In the end, it is our response to bullying that really matters.

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Would You Let Your Pet Partner With You During Prayers? Asks Benson Agoha

* Praying or sleeping?

Let's be honest and lets face this question, how many of us would let their pet partner with them during prayers?

I bet a great many of you would say NEVER!.
But, according to Discovery News, "...neurologists and other scientists argue that animals are capable of having spiritual experiences." arguing that "..spiritual experiences originate within primitive parts of the human brain, structures shared by animals."

But how do you prove it? Animals don't speak human language, although they can be thought to understand and obey it.
Some researchers argue that animals are spirit beings too and some of them are receptive to and can actually see further than humans.

But according to, Discovery News, the contenders to this theory, like Kevin Nelson, a professor of neurology at the University of Kentucky, "Since only humans are capable of language that can communicate the richness of spiritual experience, it is unlikely we will ever know with certainty what an animal subjectively experiences."

In "God Spelled Backwards" Jean Houston told Lisa Schneider she believes pets are more than just furry friends and can be our spiritual guides and soul companions.

Jean Houston author of "Mystical Dogs," explored the ways in which the dogs in her life have guided her on each stage of the mystic path, say Schneider.

When asked about cats, Dr. Houston said though Cats are very different from dogs, they are "equally evocative of our spiritual depths because "the way they will sit there and look at you and kneed bread on your chest and be so bright and shining. They have a kind of daemonic -- not demonic -- but a daemonic (as in the old Greek) aspect."
She said although Cats are tricksters who play games with us, "like great saints and monks and people like Don Juan are tricksters and fool our expectations and bring us to new ways of being, they, too, are guides.

In `Developing A Spiritual Connection With Your Pet', Allen and Linda Anderson even advises you explore ways to connect with your pet spiritually.

According to them will allow the development of the human-animal relationships to move into greater awareness, enlightenment, and divine love.

But their claim that pets demonstrate spiritual qualities–joy, unconditional love, creativity, gratitude–in abundance may be subject to further scrutiny if one considers the number of attacks on humans by pets - including their owners and owners children with whom they have played together.

But they argue that developing a deeper spiritual connection with your pets will mean using some sacrid practices that will the "allow human-animal relationships to move into greater awareness, enlightenment, and divine love."

These they say include a) Keeping A Pet Gratitude Journal, b) Imagining and Dreaming Together, c) Expressing Affection in Special Ways d) Singing A Spiritual Song and 5) Asking Yourself and Your Pet Why Are We Together?

Considering that a great many of us live alone with our pets, will you partner with your pet for prayers?

Write in and let me know what it feels like.

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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ON SPIRITUAL TERRORISM "UNMASKED"

SABRINA FROM THE USA WROTE:

"Dear Benson,

I am a Christian. I attend church. I have been going through a nightmare for the last 6 years or so. I have sought prayer and talked to more than one pastor about my ordeal. God led me to seek help online and I found you (your article titled "Spiritual terrorism a further highlight" on unmasked blog). I think that this is spiritual terrorism. I am very healthy, thank God. I am taking no medication. I think that someone is under assignment to disturb my spirit and I have suspected people close to me.

The details are too vast to write online, but I am experiencing some of the things you mentioned, like manipulation. For instance, I get constant signs get [sic] and wonders. Unclean dreams, slowed down memory. Many different attacks. I have sought prayer and help but this situation has occurred for almost six years now. I feel like I am desperate. I feel like I am at wits end. I have also been border line suicidal. I will appreciate any help that you can provide. Thank you in advance. Kindly, Sabrina, NY, USA."

And Benson responds:...

Dear Sabrina,

Many things can be responsible for slowdown in memory. Your medical doctor will usually advise you better on this. so you will be better advised to consult with them.

For example, if you are stressed or overworked, or you have been under any form of medication that causes allergies such as drowsiness.

When we experience drowsiness and become weak and sleepy, our brains tend to play tricks on us and makes us dream a lot - much of which do not really bear actual resemblance to what might be physically happening around us.

In that case, it is best to ignore these `pictures', get help by seeing your physician and if it is due to a medication, he will know what to do or whether to recommend another drug to debase it or stop it altogether. In that case, it is best not to attribute it to spiritual terrorism.

But if you attend a Mosque, Temple, Spiritual Shrines, Pentecostal churches, or indulge in much spiritual activities or exercises, it is then we can begin to analyse to see what could be responsible for the intensity around your spiritual life.

As for feeling suicidal, I would recommend you banish it from your thoughts and see a psychotherapist. Your doctor should be able to recommend a good one.

Nevertheless, as explained in my articles, Spiritual terrorism are actions of men, but you don't become a victim except someone close to you feels they have a good reason to torment you, or frustrate you or kill you. So it is something that builds up gradually (except in some very unusual cases where an authority figure is waging a selfish `holy' war and targets people, anyone, who comes within the coverage of his radar at the time).

You need to review your experience and see if you actually still suspect you are being mind-controlled by some power against your will. If you are receiving consistent instructions of what to do or how to live your life without you actually indulging in active prayer, spiritual manipulation can be suspected and there is someone around who is responsible.

Sometimes, they are people we have trusted to much and who appear so dependable to us that we let down our guard around them.

To be sure whether you are experiencing spiritual manipulation, you have to do a self-examination. Think back to the time that you had always felt in charge of your life - when you are in control and planned your life and followed your plans.

If after self-examination, you still feel confident your spiritual rights are being violated, and you are being mind-controlled and manipulated, or tortured, held back by strange powers and prevented from doing what you had always been able to do when you were in control of your life, I would like to invite you to sign my petition against the evil of Spiritual Terrorism. Please copy and paste the link. It does not ask much of signatories - just name and country of residence.

Here is the link: [GO-PETITION.]

Back to your question, before I continue, I have to warn you that till date, there is not as yet known laws promulgated to confront and control this monster, called spiritual terrorism - an action of man, where spiritual hooligans and some heartless authority figures hijack, control, manipulate, project dreams, frustrate, stagnate, torture, or kill others - just because they can. And even worse, because they know they can get away with it, due to lack of legal provisions.

Still, this is not to say that with strong evidence, Police are usually unable to act. Indeed, on the contrary, instances abound where Police have acted to caution perpetrators under anti-social behaviour charges.

So in addressing this issue, my objectives have always been to:

A)Create awareness of this evil and it's destructive tendencies.

B)Encourage victims to speak out and not bottle it up and suffer in silence.

C)And by so doing, persuade government to devise official legal frameworks for tracking and bring perpetrators to book, knowing that such government moves will produce cumulative positive results to either deter them or prosecute them.

D)As well as to clamp down on the suppliers of spiritually weaponized and dangerous portions to amateurs under an indefensible protection needs, knowing that they will use it to kill others, even though they are aware that government spends massively to keep people alive in hospitals.

I believe that to institutionally create a legal framework monitor, assess and investigate complaints of spiritual torture will help save lives, by deterring perpetrators and or by prosecuting those against whom overriding evidence have been advanced by their victims.

I estimate that wastages of people's lives, careers and or their relations, will see about 70% reduction, not the least because people will be jailed, but also because more people will be encouraged to speak out and not bottle it up and die in silence, thereby tightening the screw against evil doers and forcing many to abandon that somewhat easy route to settling personal scores.

For victims who have done a self examination and feel certain they are being spiritual tortured, or victimised by known contacts, my recommendations are as follow:

1) develop as a first move, a strong mental attitude, knowing that it an evil you are not ready or willing to put up with or allow to defeat you.

2) rediscover and embrace and guard or protect the positive values you always held close to your heart and which had seen you feel in control of your life before they started tormenting you.

3) stay alert and be watchful and observant of your environment - including close friends, relatives, peers, religious leaders, your landlords or your agents. In fact, anyone whom you know has access to you, either physically or through long distance communication means by telephone.

4) be determined to expose whatever and whomever you feel convinced is responsible and don't prevaricate, delay or try to protect them.

5) report them to the authorities - your doctors, the council, the police and governmental agencies.

6) do not be afraid and don't hold back from making known your experience and why you suspect them. These people are killing people everyday and yet, they come out the next day, pretending and getting away with it.

7) Do not try to predetermine what the police will or will not do. Or what your health adviser or council case worker will or will not do. They are trained to listen to different complaints of anti-social behaviour and will know what to do about them.

8) Many of them taking advantage of others, by abusing women and children, subjecting them to sexual abuse. You can see how many cases are being reported everyday.

9) Talk about your experiences with your health professional, who will decide whether to arrange a meeting with appropriate health professionals.

Sometimes, doctors say victims of spiritual terrorism are delusional. Do no worry about this, but be free to tell them all you experience and whom you suspect.

They may recommend you visit the mental health unit of a hospital under the supervision of a government agent. This is not a bad thing. Feel free to go there and attend all appointments with assessors, but make sure you point out that you know whom is responsible and why.

They may arrange for many assessors to talk to you, but only because they are checking for consistency of your conviction.

Feel free to write in and share your story with me any time as the research on this evil is on-going and trying to find out appropriate ways to help other victims.

There was a point in Brazil where spiritual terrorists shot needles into the body of a little child but with his parents being alert and insisting they knew the culprits, police was able to arrest them.

Below, please read my ariticle on the issue:

[BRAZIL CASE.]

Regards.

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HOW AUTHORITY FIGURES ATTEMPT TO RUN THE WORLD THROUGH PSYCHIC CONTROL by Benson Agoha

*Are those dreams divine?

In previous posts in `UMASKED', I argued that human beings who eat and marry, like the rest of us, may acquire and deploy spiritual, mystical or cultic knowledge to create social and personal problems for society, simply by hijacking the individuals through their charts and manipulate them to `do as they are told'.

Some of these people are hidden away in their rooms, offices, basements or monastries, to access and control others by shooting out instructions through dreams or visions. The gullible then believe these and act, sometimes self-destructively.

People have lost their lives or ended up in jails because they acted on spiritual promptings or revelations that were hadly divine.

So the above graphics illusrates how people manipulate and control others, and why it is best to follow laid down rules and regulations than spiritual dreams and instructions.

This also explains how those who live next door may control others, and yet perfectly pretend about it when they come out the next day.

As you can see from the image, to the perpetrators, anybody is manipulable. It is then left for you to decide whether to accept the manipulation or not.

What is your `irreducible iminimum' and what values have you set for your self?

How often have you followed dream messages but, in reality found yourself straying from your set target? Before you are sweft off your feet, the pertinent question to ask yourself is `ARE THEY WHAT THEY SEEM?'

If only people will open their eyes. The Bible said that "my people perish for lack of knowledge" [Hosea 4:6]. Well, more certainly people perish from betrayal or when they refuse to `see'.

People who are able to give you instructions or tell you stories through dreams are called spiritual/psychic controllers. But the thing is, you are not bound to accept that what they show you in those dreams are true or divine and, more importatly it pays to bear in mind that, not all of these spiritual controllers can even authorise those pictures they show you in dreams.

One way to defeat spiritual/psychic controllers is to live your life based on well-defined and generally acceptable positive values. It keeps you safe and helps your conscience stay free.

Spiritual controllers are part of society. They live around and among us, they hold jobs and mingle with others in the tube - they just have a knowledge which they often misapply and misuse.

The man holding the strings in the image may have been respresented as the devil, but he is only a `force' or `energy' or `spirit' and without a human custodian, he is inative. So it stands to reason that human custodians, with the know-how, access it and use it against other humans.

How crafty you might say - and I agree.

Beware! Not every dream message is divine - no matter how clear it seems. And if you think you know that friend, neighbour or office colleague, might it be time you think again?

* Twitter: @bensonagoha.

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Strange News From Brazil

Not that Brazil is ever lacking her share of mentions from the international news. There was the, often proudly reported, news of the country’s economic progress, due largely to the masterful leadership of her former President, Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva, who led the country from January 1, 2003 until 31 December 2010.

In recent times, the two domineering news were the 2014 World Cup, due to be held in Brazil and the Olympics and Paralympic Games, also awarded to the city of Rio-de-Janeiro for 2016.

The laudable projects notwithstanding, a few weirred news have emerged. The country is the latest provider of a `horrible' news about a heartless operation, and theft of baby from the womb.

Odete Barreto (pictured) was reported to have been lured away into the privacy of Daiana dos Santos' room with the promise of gifts for her baby, only to be attacked and operated upon, by her assailant who stole the baby. She had earlier been told she was not pregnant by medical doctors.

In 2010, a little boy was afflicted by a couple who shut, by strange means, 50 safety pins into his body, including some that went too close to his heart. The couple later confessed after arrest, that they used voodoo means to shoot the pins in.

Hmmm. What more shall we say for our world. Let there be love, please!

And Good News From Jamaica

HOLY BIBLE: KING JAMES VERSION TRANSLATED INTO PATOIS And in case you missed it but, our Jamaican Christian friends are now celebrating the formal translation of the Holy Bible into Jamaican patois making easier for speakers to understand. And why not?

This is another giant attempt by missionaries to `preach the gospel’ to the furthermost part of the earth.

Well, your dialect might just be next!

DEFINITION OF SPIRITUALITY by Benson Agoha

My definition of Spirituality as presented to the SPIRITUAL WORLD:

"Complete immaterial and abstract reality, a thorough mastery of the 'algorithm' of which can enable the master successfully cause a controled alteration to the material reality. It is like a software to a computer. You know that it is there, and that through it you can make changes that produce visible results through the hardware, but you need the algorithm".

The question then is, can you write one?

Most people think they are spiritualists when they are in fact only spiritual quacks. They cannot write and, most importantly, control a spiritual algorithm. But, they still go ahead to unleash devastating and terminal changes to the material reality.

So, support my Spiritual Rights Campaign to stop spiritual terrorism NOW!

PLEASE, SUPPORT MY CAMPAIGN AND SIGN MY PETITION AGAINST NEGATIVE USE OF SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE

* Please support my cause and sign my Petition by following direction below.

At last the Spiritual Rights Campaign takes shape with the launching of our Global Petition to persuade the United Nations to recognise Human Spiritual Rights as important, and worthy of inclusion into the over all Human Rights Convention.

Show your support for a worthy cause.

By completing our poll survey on LinkedIn or visiting our GOPETITION site to sign our Petition, you will be helping in no small way to make the world a better place.

People are being killed everyday through reckless deployment of spiritual arsenals by people who see it as a veritable means of perpetrating evil and going free.

Some use it to force people against their wills, by controlling them into doing things they would otherwise, never have done. Some people complain of being used and dumped by people who mind-control them, used them and then abandon them.

One woman wrote me to insist that `mind-control' is a form of spiritual terrorism - and many people are being controlled in this way all the time.

The people behind this evil are human beings. People who eat and drink, marry and even mingle with us at the pubs or in the market place, in shops and super markets - even in our offices. Yet, they are behind acts of destruction that are not yet legally controllable or enforsable.

Police will readily agree that these things happen, but will not entertain complaints because, they are not backed by law.

The idea behind this petition is that, if only we can persuade the authorities to recognise and take steps to outline legal frameworks that can help identify and convict perpetrators, a great many will be deterred, thereby saving more lives and suffering.

But we have to do this collectively. You and me - and all those who have either experienced or hate to see the evil of injustice and unfair manipulation done by these bad people through mind control, termination of lives of loved ones, set backs in life or business.

All of these and more, are caused by these evil and wicked people - better reffered to as spiritual terrorists. They cause as much hurt and devastation, as their conventional spiritual terrorist counterparts.

This online Peitition can help do this. So I invite you to support me by signing it.

Collectively, let us co-create this new reality that can bequette a better life, free from spiritual assault and degradation, to world that desparately needs internal and communal peace - and to posterity.

Thank you so much for your help.

Benson Agoha, Founder, Coalition Against Spiritual Terrorism [CAST].

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